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Old-School Dating Rules To Bring Back

by Lea B.

Being born in the mid-80’s, I feel like our generation was blessed to see “the best of both worlds”, meaning that we grew up without the internet and instead we physically played outside with our friends, but as we grew into young adults we started gaining the ability to use technology of all kinds. 

We didn’t even have cell phones or the internet when I was a kid, and I was fifteen years old when we finally had WebTV (brownie points for you if you remember WebTV!) and I was so jealous of my best friend at the time who had a pager.  

Ah, the simple days...

In fact, I feel like my generation was the last generation to experience the “days of old” and all of the old-school traditions of dating, friendships, holiday get-togethers, and just the old-school way of life in general. We were able to get a slight taste of that life, and our parents and grandparents have stories that will bring tears to your eyes every single time. 

When it came down to dating and relationships, people in the fifties and sixties seemed to know what they were doing. Even before the fifties these men were courting women in the most respectful way, treating them like queens and in turn, being treated like a king.

But today? It seems as if we all hate each other more than respect each other and a lot of this has come from society itself.

We’ve failed each other at dating and love, we’ve put each other into almost impossible boxes that we can barely make it out of- and it’s time we bring some “old-school” dating etiquette and practices back and revive love again before it’s too late.

Dating Practices to Bring Back in 2020

Gestures & Etiquette

  • Calling instead of texting or messaging on Facebook - back in the day, if you wanted to talk to your lady, you had to call her. There was no texting or sending messages on Facebook, the communication was forward and straight to the point and live. The things you said couldn’t get misconstrued and conversations were much more intimate and private.

Oh, yea and the man had to call his woman, not her calling him - ever. There was no such thing as women calling men. And while we don't think that is something we necessarily need to bring back in today's dating practices, men could use a high dose of this old school chivalry for sure.

We all know that texts and messages can be conveyed as rude or can even sound belittling whether you meant it that way or not, and it’s because we can’t hear the voice or see the face behind it. Texts and Facebook have ruined many relationships, all because it’s not forward and can be heard in a totally different context than it was meant to be heard.

  • Men practiced chivalry much more than they do now - holding doors for their lady, opening up the car door to let her out, pulling out her chair to sit down, all of these chivalrous acts are almost unheard of nowadays. It seems as if men now want to be treated the same as women when it comes to dating, but a man's part in a relationship is to be the gentleman, not the lady.

While it’s 100% OK to hold the door for your man if you’re walking in front of him, if men would bring the chivalry back they’d be surprised at what all they would get in return. Women are all about emotions and feeling loved and cared for, if they feel loved and cared for, a real woman will reciprocate those actions and give her man what he needs in return.

  • Taking them out on a real date and buying flowers beforehand - We aren’t exactly knocking the whole ‘Netflix and chill’ ordeal, especially if that’s their thing. But what if she’s never had a guy sweep her off of her feet like that? Maybe she just doesn’t know what it’s like to be taken out on a real date and so her go-to is always the ‘Netflix and chill’ option. 

For your first several dates, and especially the first one or two, it would be a super great idea (and gesture) to bring flowers to her door when you pick her up. Then to take her out to a nice restaurant, and maybe have a couple of drinks after handing her a bouquet of flowers, she'll melt right there in your hands.

Just beware, once her girlfriends hear about her date with you, you might suddenly have vultures trying to swoop in and take advantage of you (and your wallet) just so they can feel what it’s like to date a real man!

  • Make actual plans and be very specific with them - we’re living in such a “here & now” world that we all expect things to just fall into place at the very moment we speak it, and nobody makes plans anymore, we all just go with the flow. But when you’re dating someone and you’re trying to impress them, a vague “let’s do something together” just doesn’t cut it in the way that it should.

Be memorable and different, make actual plans with her on a specific day and at a specific time. Even more so, talk about the exact places you want to go on that date. The fact that you’re putting in so much time and effort to just go on a date with her will make her heart melt and will put you on a pedal stool above the rest in her eyes.

  • Write her out a sweet note or get her a romantic card, for no reason but just because - maybe it’s the food we eat compared to the food they ate back in the fifties and sixties, but back then men were so romantic and thoughtful and not in an overbearing, sexual way. Writing out little notes of love or getting a card to show her you care will send Cupid’s arrow right through her heart and straight into yours.

In other words, she might just fall in love with you for being the sweetest and most romantic guy she’s ever met.

  • Don’t jump into bed so soon, make them wait & court (date) you for awhile - it’s almost impossible to find a virgin today in 2020, most people are sexually active and they’ll admit they sleep with people the first time they meet them. This time, try waiting. Go on as many dates as you can and let them know you’ll only have sex when it gets serious.

Never jump into bed with anyone who says they’ll leave you and not talk to you if you don’t have sex - show them the door!

  • Have an actual sit-down dinner with each other's families - in the days of old those who were dating would have a sit-down formal dinner with their partner’s family. You would dress to impress, say yes ma’am and no sir, and almost play the family’s game to see if you win your partner's heart or not (in their eyes). 

It was more than just having dinner with them though, you would have to impress their family in more ways than one and more days than just one dinner. Bring her mother flowers, give her father a manly gift, you could even take her little brother out to the park one day. Courting his or her family will make you look like a hero, almost.

  • But don’t introduce them to your family (or anyone you love & care about) until you’re 100% serious with them - However, do not introduce your dating partner to your family, your kids, your friends, or anyone else that is super close to you until you are serious and know this person is the one for you - at least the one for now. 
  • Keep your relationship and dating life private until it’s exclusive - we’re all tempted to post about our amazing date on Facebook, and we all get that but refrain from doing so. Instead, if you had an amazing time, call up your best girlfriend and gloat about it, but no posting online! The internet only makes things worse, and even if it doesn’t, you’re not close enough to him or her to start bragging about it on the internet.

It’s also not anyone’s business what’s going on in your personal love life, and it never was, to begin with. Relationships don’t last nearly as long as they used to, and the divorce rate has only gone up since then as well. The internet and the media play a huge role in the demise of many relationships, so don’t kill yours before it even starts. 

Keep it off the internet until you know that you know that you know he’s or she’s the one you’re going to start dating exclusively.

Dating Practices By the Decade to Revive

  • In the 1940’s, kids were introduced to “Mental Hygiene Films” which were a series of different videos that were to teach kids about the birds and the bees, but also about social status amongst the opposite sex, taking care of yourself, and more. Teachers and parents alike relied heavily on these films hoping they would teach them how to be the best lover they could be when they grew up.

Ok, maybe we don’t need films per se’ to teach us about life and love, but it would be nice to have a more educated look at love and sex rather than just shoving the objectification of women and the lust that comes with sex down our throats.

  • When the 1950s rolled around, there were rules to follow when it came to dating and it seemed like the men had to do most of the work. Only men could ask women out on dates and the man had to do everything in his power to win over this woman. One rule we think we could bring in particular though is the fact that in the ’50s, you only dated one person at a time.

Dating was looked at more so as to who were you going to marry in a few years, rather than how many people can you hook up with today. So to date or court someone then it meant that you really thought you might see yourself marrying that person one day, as time went on. 

Having a relationship or even just dating was much more serious to the teenagers and young adults in the ’50s and we think our newer generations could take some notes from them and be a little bit more serious when choosing someone to go out with.

  • The hippie, happy years of 1960 and 1970 proved to be a little freer and a little less strict than all of the years before. However, that didn’t mean that people didn’t take dating seriously, it just meant they were allowed to have a little more fun with it. Nevertheless, people still dated to find “the one” and men still wooed their women into a date. 

In fact, guys were taught to be gentlemen and it was still common for the guy to call the girl, ask the girl out, pay for dates, etc. 

Dating in the ’60s was more casual than formal, but still serious, whereas now we are just out having fun, not caring about what the other person might feel like afterward. People actually cared about others' feelings and dating your girlfriend's ex or your best friends crush was a huge no-no and an abomination to friendships. Can we please bring that mentality back?

Old-Fashioned Dating Practices from Around the World

The U.S. could take notes…

The United States isn’t the only country with romantic people in the world, there are millions of other humans on planet Earth and in many different countries too that have some really amazing, old-fashioned dating practices that we feel the U.S. could stand to inherit as well.

Central and South America

They aren’t allowed to date until they are 15 here in Central and South America, and when they are of age, girls and boys date in large groups to dance parties, local clubs, or just out to eat.

This allows the children to not feel so scared or shy when out on their first (or second) date. Not to mention it probably keeps some other things from happening as well. Kudos to you Central & South America!

Spain

In Spain, teens will join a club or pandilla with other teens that have the same interests, like cycling or some other type of sport, or maybe a particular hobby. This is where teens will meet each other and the girls ask guys out just as much as guys as the girls, and they both split the costs of the date. We like equality and providing the kids with something to do, Spain!

Sweden

If you’re a coffee lover you’re going to love the Swedish way of dating. Fika is coffee in Sweden and the Swedes love going out for coffee when it comes to dating, it’s just “their thing” and what they do when they go out with someone.

In fact, they prefer going out to a coffee shop on a date much more than going to the movies or to dinner. 

Perhaps the most beautiful thing about Swedish dating though is the fact that they are super exclusive, even before marriage, and we feel like maybe Americans could take heed to their way of committing to one another.

IN CONCLUSION, it doesn’t matter what decade it is, nor does it matter what country you’re living in, as long as you set boundaries and let your partner that you’re dating know your true intentions beforehand, you’re on the right track.

Dating can be a number of things and you can choose to date as you please, going wheresoever you choose to go. Just be mindful of those who do want something long-term and steady, and don’t toy with anyone’s emotions.