It’s easy to get the conversation flowing on a chat line, even if you feel a bit awkward at first. Just in case, we’ve gathered 11 helpful tips for your next chat line conversation. Keep reading below to find out what they are.
1. Be confident.
Confidence is important in many situations, especially when it comes to dating. Even though the person you’re chatting with can’t see you, it’s crucial to exude confidence and avoid saying “um” every few words. When you’re confident, the conversation flows better, and you don’t doubt yourself as much.
Everyone finds confidence attractive, so next time you’re talking to someone on a chat line, ensure you sound confident. If you’re struggling to achieve this, try giving yourself a pep talk in the mirror before picking up the phone, or call your bestie first, so they can hype you up.
2. Stay focused.
Although the other caller can’t see you, they will be able to tell if you’re distracted. When you’re having a conversation on a chat line and start forgetting what you were about to say, or you repeat something, it’s going to be obvious that you’re having a hard time staying focused.
This can make the other caller feel undervalued because when someone has difficulties focusing on you, it could indicate that they don’t find you interesting, or they don’t care to listen. Although that may not be the case, it’s understandable for them to feel this way. Therefore, do your best to stay focused so you can have better conversations.
3. Prepare topics of conversation.
If you’re someone who easily gets nervous, preparing topics of conversation beforehand can be very helpful. To avoid pausing the conversation while you think about what to discuss next, make a list of things you’d like to share about yourself, topics you’re curious about, and questions you want to ask the other caller.
This preparation can make you feel more ready and might even boost your confidence. You may not even need to glance at this list, but having it doesn’t hurt.
4. Find a quiet place to talk.
Finding a quiet place to talk might seem obvious, but it’s often overlooked. Recall a time when you were on the phone with someone and couldn’t hear them clearly due to background noise, which was also distracting. No one will want to continue a conversation if it’s hard to hear you or if they find other things distracting.
It’s not about being rude; it’s simply not an enjoyable experience for them. So, the next time you’re talking to someone on a chat line, ensure you’re in a quiet location where you won’t be interrupted.
5. Take notes.
If you’re really hitting it off with someone, take notes about what this person says they like, things that seem important to remember, and any commonalities you may have. In the moment, you might swear you’ll remember everything they’ve said, but as the conversation progresses and your nervousness shifts, you may forget. So, especially if you’re particularly interested in that specific caller, jot down some notes so you don’t forget the important details about them.
6. Make sure you have plenty of minutes.
One of the worst things that can happen during an amazing conversation on a chat line is running out of minutes. Fortunately, purchasing more minutes is straightforward, and there won’t be much of a pause since your card is on file.
You’ll instantly be asked if you want to purchase more, but it’s still something you should try to avoid. Sometimes, especially during engaging conversations, you might not notice how quickly time passes, but running out of minutes is bound to happen eventually.
It’s better to inform the other person that you may run out of minutes during your call, but assure them that if you do, you’ll be right back so they know to wait for you.
7. Charge your phone.
This situation is particularly unfortunate because, unlike running out of minutes, if your phone runs out of battery, you won’t be automatically reconnected to that caller unless you’ve favorited them. Favoriting a caller allows you to get back in touch with them.
However, sometimes you might not have added that caller to your favorites list because you’ve only been talking to them for a short amount of time when your battery suddenly dies. Therefore, ensure you have a charger nearby, or better yet, start the call with a full battery to avoid this issue.
8. End the conversation as soon as you feel you’re not into it.
Don’t waste your time or your minutes. Remember, your minutes cost money and time is valuable, so don’t spend them on people you’re not interested in talking to. The sooner you switch to a new caller, the more likely you are to find someone you truly enjoy talking to on the chat line.
However, remember that it’s rude to hang up abruptly. It’s important to say goodbye before you do so. Even if you keep it short and direct, a farewell is usually appreciated by most callers.
9. Watch your language.
While some people may not notice or mind if you curse, others really care about how you speak and believe it reflects on your character. To be safe, we suggest keeping your cursing to a minimum, so you come across as well-mannered and polite to the other caller.
10. Don’t talk about controversial topics.
When dating on a chat line, remember to avoid any topics you’d steer clear of in any other date or social interaction. Topics such as religion and politics should be avoided, especially if you are very opinionated and struggle with someone holding beliefs different from yours.
Remember, you are meeting blindly, aiming to connect based on personality. If you’re seeking someone of the same religion or beliefs, perhaps a different dating site would be more appropriate. Chat lines aren’t specifically catered to matching based on such criteria.
11. Try talking to several people.
While it’s fantastic if you’ve hit it off with one person, enjoying the conversation and getting to know them, remember that you can favorite them and reconnect at another time. Try talking to several people to explore what the chat line has to offer. You might discover someone you enjoy talking to even more than that initial connection.
- What if my first time calling was terrible? First, establish what made your first experience a negative one. Was it the conversation you had, who you talked to, or were you nervous? When it comes to dating on a chat line, there are few limits; you can talk to as many people as you’d like, for as long as you’d like. We suggest you try again, report or block callers you’re unhappy with, and keep chatting.
- How can I gain more confidence? It’s very important to be confident when dating on a chat line because you need to be able to speak up and not go quiet. Earlier, we suggested giving yourself a pep talk in the mirror or getting a friend to hype you up before your call. Just remember, no one can judge you on a chat line, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
Chat lines are a great way to meet new people and improve your dating skills. The tips we’ve gathered above will help you have better conversations the next time you call a chat line. It’s a lot to keep track of, so don’t stress if you only try a few of the tips at a time.