For most men, the decision to make a serious commitment is not something that happens in a spur of the moment. It takes a lot of thought and introspection to finally conclude that you’re ready to settle down with the woman you love.
But how do you know if she’s the one? What are the signs that she’s the woman you should spend the rest of your life with?
“Tying the knot” with that special woman in your life is a life-changing decision that can be nerve-wracking. After all, being single and having no responsibilities is great. So why would you give up the privilege to meet, have fun, and sleep with different women? It’s natural to have doubts and questions, but dealing with them one at a time and in the best way you can will help you find the answers you need.
When you come to this point in your life, you’re bound to start looking for something more. You begin to seek something deeper as you try to examine what love and commitment really mean to you. That’s where the signs come in – they can help guide you towards the right decision. Here are some signs that she’s really the one for you.
1. Embracing Marriage With Her.
If the thought of marrying your special someone doesn’t scare you at all, even after years of being together, then she’s the right one for you. For most men, coming to a conclusion that includes marriage can be difficult.
Frequently, you just want to spend time together, no matter how long, without entering into a commitment. There are no pressures and no demands.
However, if marriage is something that frequently comes to mind and you can’t wait to “seal the deal” with her, perhaps she’s someone you want to keep in your life permanently.
2. Shared Future Plans.
Do you always include her in your plans for the future? Is she an essential part of how you see yourself many years from now? If the same goes for her, and you tend to plan things together, it’s a good sign for both of you.
Being lovers is one thing, but being life partners is another. It takes a certain level of maturity to understand and appreciate each other’s aspirations for the future and to feel blessed about being there for each other when they happen.
If you’re both part of each other’s plans and willing to work as a team to make beautiful things happen, consider yourselves lucky. It takes love and dedication to see that much enthusiasm in another person.
3. She Loves and Respects the Important People in Your Life.
Couples who struggle to like each other’s families and friends can experience a great deal of tension in their relationship. This is unhealthy and toxic, as the important people in your life shouldn’t be a problem when you enter into a relationship.
If you see and feel that she loves or at least respects these important people in your life, consider it a positive sign. You should also return the favor and show the same level of love and respect for the people who matter most to her.
This is a way of showing courtesy and consideration for each other, and an indication that you’re both willing to recognize and accept the people outside your relationship who are essential to each other’s happiness.
4. You Love Doing Things Together.
If you’d rather spend more time with her than with anyone else, even after years of being together, it’s a sign of compatibility. For example, you love hanging out with her more than partying with your friends, and you don’t mind spending time with just the two of you. It’s a clear indication that you love her company and that she is enough for you.
Enjoying many things together and being each other’s best friend means that even if you’re past the honeymoon stage in your relationship, there’s nothing for you to worry about anymore. What you share is already far deeper and more purposeful than when you were starting out.
5. She Empathizes With You.
You can’t always expect things to go your way, and there are times when it’s difficult to see the brighter side of life. There are days when you have to deal with failures and struggles. During these times, a relationship goes through a major test.
If she empathizes with you during these challenging times and provides you with the love, comfort, and understanding you need to overcome the situation, consider yourself lucky.
Not all women are willing to go through difficult times, especially when there are plenty of other options. Sometimes, when the situation is too exhausting and burdensome, one may give up on a relationship. However, if she decides to stay by your side despite the obstacles and struggles, she’s worth keeping for the rest of your life.
6. You’re a Better Man Because of Her.
Being a good man is one thing, but wanting to become an even better one is an entirely different story. If you’re driven and motivated to become the best person you can be because of her, you’re exactly where you should be.
It takes a special person to spark that interest in working hard, finding purpose in your life, becoming helpful to others, and appreciating learning. Only a special person can inspire you to improve so you can achieve greater things.
7. Mutual Respect for Differences.
It takes a lot to set aside each other’s pride and meet halfway. However, if you’re both willing to do this, there’s no reason why you must keep on arguing. Her willingness to respect each other’s differences and drive to work things out together is a definite sign that she’s right for you. After all, agreeing to meet halfway and making compromises contribute to a happy and healthy relationship.
It takes a lot to set aside each other’s pride and meet halfway. However, if you’re both willing to do this, there’s no reason why you must keep on arguing. Her willingness to respect each other’s differences and drive to work things out together is a definite sign that she’s right for you. After all, agreeing to meet halfway and making compromises contribute to a happy and healthy relationship.
8. You Love Introducing Her to Everyone.
If you’re proud to introduce her to your family, friends, and colleagues, it means that you consider her a valuable person in your life. However, be careful not to give her the wrong idea by crossing the line between being proud of her and seeing her as a “trophy” girlfriend.
It’s perfectly acceptable to be proud of her simply because you love her and are happy to have her in your life. However, it can be disturbing to introduce her around simply because she makes a good accessory, and having her by your side makes you feel like a well-accomplished man.
Think about this carefully. If your feelings for her are far stronger than anything else, and that’s the reason why you’re proud to introduce her to everyone, then you’re genuinely into her, and she’s someone you can consider spending the rest of your life with.
9. You Don’t Get Turned-Off No Matter What She Does.
If you find her silliness, clumsiness, and awkwardness funny instead of being turn-offs, you have strong feelings for her. It means you’re past the stage of trying to impress each other. If you can be your natural selves when you’re together and don’t mind making a fool of yourselves, your relationship is for keeps.
Couples who laugh at their silly acts together, no matter how embarrassing, usually share a strong and special bond. True love is all about loving a person “in spite of” their imperfections and weaknesses.
So if you only love her “because of” the things she can do flawlessly, you need to assess your relationship.
10. You Feel Safe and Content Around Each Other.
Imagine being stuck on a secluded island with her, with only the two of you. How much are you willing to stick together and protect each other? What are your thoughts about living with just each other in an isolated place with practically nothing? If this doesn’t terrify you, and you’re willing to go through anything as long as you’re with her, you’ve hit a gold mine.
Instead of seeking signs that she’s the one for you, ask yourself if you’re fine with anything as long as you have each other. Admitting to yourself that you need her is not a sign of weakness or neediness. It simply means that you’re willing to share your life with another person so you can grow, succeed, and learn together.
Before you conclude that it’s time to say the words, “for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, ’til death does us part,” do a reality check. It’s not enough that you’re 100% sure about how you feel. She has to feel the same way too. She has to be just as ready for what’s coming next.
So, make a careful assessment if she’s ready to take things to the next level with you. Communicating with her can clear away all doubts that you might have in mind. If she needs more time, then maybe you need it as well. Otherwise, take the chance and put a ring on her finger.
Life is full of uncertainties, but it can become more meaningful if you’re willing to take a chance with that one person who means the world to you.
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