It’s important to date a good man. You should never settle for someone who is just ‘okay.’ Instead, you need to make sure that your man is a good person who can fulfill your needs in a relationship completely. The following list will help you figure out if the man you’re dating is a good man or not.
1. A good man shows affection.
A good man doesn’t do this in a clingy way that comes off as too strong, and he doesn’t seem obsessive by doing this. He makes sure he reminds you that you are loved and how much you mean to him because he always wants you to feel loved by him.
2. A good man makes you feel important.
A good man makes you feel important at all times. Not only does he tell you how important you are in his life, but he wants you to feel important and valued, not just know that you are. You’re not just something extra in his life that he feels indifferent about spending time with. He wants you there with him because your presence is important as well.
The relationship he has with you is important, and growing together in the relationship is also very important to him. You are one of the things that he is most passionate about.
3. A good man values quality time together.
A good man doesn’t need to spend every second of every day with you, but he does enjoy spending time with you. He’ll always make sure he spends quality time with you, even when he’s really busy. This could mean watching a movie together, getting dinner, or simply running errands together instead of separately when your schedules are just too busy to sort out a more romantic evening. It doesn’t matter if the activity is something simple, he’s just happy to get to do it with you.
4. A good man prioritizes you.
Perhaps you can’t be his number one priority because he has a lot of things going on that he needs to attend to, but you are one of his top priorities. He will always reply to your texts even if it’s not right away, he will always make time for you, and your relationship’s needs will always be met because you are a priority.
He doesn’t put things off with you because his friends want him to do something, he puts his friends off so he can have time with you first, and then he worries about his friends.
5. A good man builds you up.
Some men don’t realize the weight their words have, or the lack thereof. If you’re dating a good man, he will never tear you down, he will only build you up. A good man will always compliment you, and he will never tell you something doesn’t look good on you, because he knows clothing isn’t what makes you beautiful, but that you are what makes the clothing beautiful. He’s never going to tell you that there is something wrong with your body, he will only encourage your self-confidence.
6. A good man is trustworthy.
Some women are attracted to the bad boys, but in reality, there’s nothing attractive about them because you just get hurt. A good man will never make you feel like you can’t trust him, and he’ll never make you feel like any other woman could even be a threat to your relationship.
He will make you feel secure in your relationship, no matter what. Even if you’re someone who has trust issues or easily gets jealous, when you’re dating a good man, it’s difficult to have them because he only inspires you to trust him and never to doubt him.
7. A good man encourages freedom.
Even when he can’t join you, he still encourages you to go out with your girlfriends. He’s not the type of guy that doesn’t let you hang out with your friends without him. He’s not possessive at all, and he knows that you are your own person, and you have a life outside of your relationship with him.
He’ll never prohibit you from doing something just because he can’t be present; it’s simply not like him to do so. Of course, he might feel like he’s missing out, and he might wish he could have joined you, but he’s never going to make a scene if he can’t tag along.
8. A good man has many good friends.
To some women, this can seem like a sign that he not only has a lot of friends in general, but a lot of female friends, or that because he has so many friends, he’s probably busy most of the time. However, if your man has a lot of good friends, not fake friends, but real friends, it’s actually a really good sign.
This is a good sign because it indicates that he’s someone people like, someone people want to spend time with, and that likely means that he is a good person which is why he is liked by so many people.
9. A good man values family relationships.
A good man values his relationship with his family, and has no family drama because he is not a problematic person. Not only does he have a good relationship with his family, but he encourages you to get to know them and develop a relationship with them as well.
10. A good man loves you as you are.
Nobody is perfect, and everyone has certain flaws, but a good man will always love you just the way you are. He won’t try to change you, or make you be someone you are not. He accepts you and any imperfections you may have exactly as they are. He encourages you to embrace your flaws, and only supports change when you want those changes as well.
11. A good man is always supportive.
He always supports you, even when you’re going after something that seems crazy or impossible. He makes you believe that the sky’s the limit and that you are not on your own when it comes to accomplishing your goals. He supports you and cheers you on the whole time until you’ve reached the finish line, and he makes sure you know that it’s always going to be like that.
Other men might not care about showing you their support, or they assume that by simply telling you they support you, you’ll feel it, but a good man knows that it’s important to show his support as well.
12. A good man pays attention to details.
Even if he is the most forgetful person, your man remembers even the smallest details about you. You can count on him to remember your favorite food, the ice cream flavor you’ve been getting since you were a little kid, and the song that makes you happy even on your darkest days.
He tries his best to remember all of the important things you’ve mentioned to him because he knows it’s important to you and that you’re going to feel good if he does. A good man is not a perfect man, so at times he may forget things, but for the most part he will be excellent at paying attention to detail.
13. A good man builds relationships with your loved ones.
A good man understands that it’s important to get to know those closest to you. They are likely the people that have influenced you most in your life, and have helped make you who you are today. Even if he’s a very busy person, when there is a family gathering or your friends are doing something, he makes sure to make time to stop by and be there with you so that he can grow his relationship with them as well.
14. A good man shows interest in your hobbies and passions.
You and your man might not always have the same hobbies or enjoy doing the same things, but he makes an effort to participate in activities you like even if he’s not very fond of them, because he knows you enjoy them.
15. A good man finds solutions to conflicts.
Fights aren’t problems in your relationship. Of course, you may have problems, which can lead to fighting, but the fight itself won’t be an additional problem. Whenever something is going on, he knows the best thing to do is to talk about it, put his pride aside, and find a solution to the problem. Sometimes you’ll be wrong, sometimes he’ll be wrong, but to him, it’s never about that. It’s about overcoming the problem.
16. A good man keeps you safe.
Your safety is one of his priorities, and your man will never ask you to do something that could harm you, or put you in a situation that could impact you negatively. He always thinks about what’s in your best interest when he’s making a decision, and looks out for you when you go out on your own. A good man will always do everything in his power to keep you safe.
Wrapping it up. A good man might not have all of these qualities, but he will have most of them. It’s important to remember that just because he truly is a good person, it doesn’t mean that he won’t make mistakes. No one is perfect, and you shouldn’t have unrealistic expectations just because he’s a good man.
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