Falling in love could perhaps be one of the single most awesome feelings in the world. Butterflies, tingles, you can’t stop smiling - these are all of the wonderful attributes that come with the “L” word.
However, if you’ve never been in love before or you just seem to have a different way of feeling than others, it might be much more than just a tingle when you touch for you.
Both men and women have some pretty cool signs they’re falling in love with someone, and we’re here to tell you!
If you feel like you might be falling for someone but aren’t quite sure, or you’re wondering if the one you are in love with feels the same, read on to find out our top 10 signs you’re (or they’re) falling in love!
How to Know if You’re Falling
The top 10 signs of love
1. Jealous of other men/women you talk to
Men are not always jealous creatures, or maybe they just hide it much better than women do. However, if a man starts falling for a woman and he’s been chatting with her solely for some time now and he all of a sudden starts showing jealousy towards other men around his lady - he’s in love.
As a woman, jealousy attacks just as bad, if not worse, and everyone will know it. She may start questioning that female friend of yours that she never questioned before.
A little bit of jealousy on either side is totally fine (and normal) and is definitely a major sign of deeper feelings.
However, it is always super important that you handle these types of situations immediately and never, ever let it sit and fester.
A jealous girlfriend or boyfriend is only okay in small doses of normal jealousy. If you don’t address the issue at hand right away it can turn into a nightmare.
2. Taking better care of yourself for them
We’re not saying you’re a stinky low-life before they came along or anything, but if you start making an effort to spray a certain cologne or perfume every time you get around the ‘one’, or dressing up more when the two of you hang out chances are love is in the air.
When a guy is in love, he puts his best foot forward at all times, making sure that girl he loves never finds herself falling away from him, and vice versa.
Sometimes it’s not even about making yourself look better on the outside, but on the inside too.
If you find someone who is making you do better things for yourself personally, kudos to you - keep them around for as long as they are needed.
3. Putting them first, ditching friends for him/her
This is like a huge “no-no” against 'girl code' and a violation against the “bros before hoes code” too, but one of the tell-all signs of falling in love is to ditch your friends to be with your man or girl.
Even families take second place to someone in love, and it’s not done maliciously.
It’s proven that when you find someone who makes your heart melt (aka love) it’s nearly physically impossible to stay away from that person.
This would make sense when it comes to him/her blowing off the game with their friends just to come to rub your back.
4. One or both of you start bringing up future plans
Typically it’s hard for men to even think about marriage and babies so if you find your man suddenly planning out the future with you, it’s probably safe to say he’s smitten.
The same goes for women, start bringing up babies and your honeymoon - you might as well start planning your wedding date.
Relationship experts say that when a couple starts planning for their future, and they really mean what they are saying, this is almost compared to a high from a drug.
Think about it - when you’re drunk and feeling good, don’t you start promising your friends the world? You’ll think of extravagant adventures and plans and swear up and down you’ll follow through. It’s kinda like that.
Couples begin speaking about their future plans because their serotonin and dopamines are at a high level when you’re in love. Your brain is only reacting to the goodness it feels.
5. Telling everyone about them
Women are more known to gossip about their love life than men, but in today's time, it’s just as normal for a man to brag about his lady as it is for him to put her down.
Still, if you’re a new relationship, most people don’t want to rush into anything and won’t make a big deal out of it.
With no big deal made out of it, you won’t tell your friends or your co-workers simply because you just don’t find it important enough. But when the love bug strikes..you’re coming out of your skin to tell everyone about him or her.
Falling in love gives you this extra kick of good vibes in your mind, body, and soul, so it’s almost way too hard for you to even keep quiet about your new budding relationship. Go ahead and tell the world!
6. You can’t stop smiling and your cheeks hurt so much from laughing
This person makes you laugh non-stop even when they aren’t funny, thinking about them makes you smile and you can feel butterflies flapping their wings all in your throat and tummy imagining their face. Yep, that’s love baby!
Now there’s a difference between laughing all night with friends and then being with someone who can make you smile for no reason at all. If the person in question makes you smile so much your cheeks hurt, it’s safe to say you’re falling for them.
7. Doing everything for them - cooking for them, cleaning their clothes, you’d tuck them in at night if you could
Men and women alike will start doing every little thing for this person they’re dating when they’re bitten by the love bug.
Depending on how bad you’re bit, you might even end up doing some pretty gross things for them like popping their zits on their back.
Whatever it is you’re into, if you notice that you are waiting hand and foot on this new boo, check your heart at the door. Doing things for people doesn’t mean you’re in love with them but then again, you don’t help and do things for those you hate either.
Again, when you love someone, your dopamines and endorphins are at an all-time high thus making you want to do so much for this person. Just make sure that for as much as you do for them, they do for you also.
8 .You may start feeling a little childlike around them
We’re not saying that you fall in love and become a blubbering idiot (although sometimes you can be), but a lot of women do become not only silly & giggly with their boo when they’re falling hard but they also become more like a teenager in love than an adult.
Men aren’t any different when they’re turned on by the love machine they tend to fall back into some childlike behavior as well. Depending on the man, if he’s more on the immature side he’ll resort back to playful violence, name-calling, teasing, elementary school dating 101 if you will.
But if he’s an actual man, he may just seem really nervous which will sometimes turn him into a shy teenage boy on his very first date if he’s not careful. It’s ok though, women love that in a man and would much rather see you nervous than getting mistreated.
9. Things are allowed that weren’t allowed before
This doesn’t always mean having sex, it could mean second base, it could mean you finally get to sleep in the same bed with her at night when she stays over. But if she’s starting to allow more and more things that she would not in the beginning - her feelings are getting deeper.
For women especially, this step in the relationship is super important. We’re taught our whole lives not to just give ourselves away to anyone so we feel like when we give you us in its entirety you’re going to respect that and reciprocate the love.
Whether you’re a man or a woman though, if you are falling in love with someone there are going to be things allowed now that weren’t before when you were just dating or just friends.
10. Meeting the family and all the friends too
One of the biggest signs of being in love is bringing that person to meet your family and friends, family especially. This is the most true if you have children and you’re allowing your kids to meet your babe for the first time.
Unless you’re one of those people who's super close with your mom or dad and you’ve always let them meet anyone you dated, it’s typically a huge deal to bring the guy or girl over to meet the parents and the rest of the family.
Even as adults, bringing a woman or man to meet mom and dad could potentially mean a new member of the family one day in the future, so having your new partner meet your family and friends is a huge deal for any age.
so having your new partner meet your family and friends is a huge deal for any age.
So, you’re in love. What’s next?
You’ve read the signs, you feel the butterflies, and you’ve determined you’re falling in love - so, what’s next? Tell them.
If you haven’t told them you are falling yet, now is the time. If you don’t tell them now, you might let the chance pass you by and then it could be too late tomorrow. You can tell them the easiest way you know how, but might we suggest not doing it through text messages?
Text messages never convey the true feelings behind anything you say, and I’d hate for her most important day to be constructed through text.
Once you’ve let them know just how you feel, it’s time to see their reaction and see where they stand in the relationship. This can be the hardest part, knowing how they feel once you tell them you’re falling in love.
I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you!