When you’re in any relationship, whether it be romantic or platonic, you must have a certain amount of trust in them, and in the two of you as a partnership, to work out – smoothly.
Especially when it comes to romantic relationships, if you want to have a good, long-term, committed love life, you are going to have to learn to trust each other. No matter the situation and no matter the people they are around.
Whether you are learning to trust someone for the very first time, or you are learning to trust someone after being hurt by them, the ways to build it are the same.
Table of Contents
How to Build Trust in Your Relationship
- Seven Components of Love
- 9 Ways to Build Trust in Your Relationship
- 1. Over Time, Learn to Be Vulnerable With Each Other Again
- 2. Be Honest, All of the Time, at All Costs
- 3. Respect
- 4. Give Forgiveness Where It Is Due, and Leave It There
- 5. Show Them You Are Trying to Win Their Trust…It’s Sexy
- 6. Have Emotional Reactions to Real-life Scenes With Him/Her
- 7. Make Sure It’s Equal in the “Give and Take” Department
- 8. Admit When You’re Wrong
- 9. Sacrifice Others and Other Activities for Your Partner
Love is much more than just trusting your partner though, in fact, they say there are seven main components to a steady and long-lasting love relationship:
Seven Components of Love
As we’ve already stated, you must have trust in each other and you must also have trust in yourself to stay faithful, loyal, and true to each other and only each other. Without trust, the relationship can literally blow up right in front of you.
The silly saying of “there is no ‘I’ in teamwork” is cliche, but true. One of you could build a mountain, but two of you working together could move them.
You’ve got to talk to each other and I know most guys pretend they hate it but if they would just sit with you one good time and listen with their heart, speak with their brain, and just let you in on their lives too, then you’ll have the perfect recipe for love.
Honesty is a big one because there are some people who will cut you off after your very first lie to them, some will after the second or third, so you’ve got to be very careful about lying, what you lie about, and to what extreme you take it, as you could risk your entire relationship.
Probably the most important characteristic of them all and only because once you master respect you should master the other traits of loving someone correctly. Having respect for another human allows you to give empathetic feelings towards them which then allows you to understand where they’re coming from a lot more than you would if you didn’t respect them.
Think of someone you really can’t stand, it’s because you don’t respect them, and imagine the feelings you have towards them and the way you view them without that respect. If you felt that way about your partner then you mine as well be enemies.
Understanding each other is always essential in a relationship because there are going to be disagreements and one must learn to understand where the other is coming from if you want to have healthy arguments. And not only understanding them in arguments, but also understanding them as a whole, as your lover, and the things they hold dear to their heart.
Which then, of course, brings us back to loving each other. You know how after you’ve been with someone for years and years you can start to lose that loving feeling? Try to get that back if you feel you are losing it or have lost it. Love is only lost when it’s the end and there is no longer a chance to redeem it.
Having a love for each other will almost always surpass everything else but you’ve got to couple it with all of the aforementioned traits as well if you want a long-lasting relationship.
9 Ways to Build Trust in Your Relationship
Since this article is focusing mainly on trust and building trust within your relationship, let’s jump back to some basic but great ways that work to build that trust with your partner.
Remember, building trust is a process and does not happen overnight. That is why you must continue practicing the ways mentioned here so that your relationship does not go stale and you lose all interest.
1. Over Time, Learn to Be Vulnerable With Each Other Again
When you are vulnerable with someone and you open up to someone, this is when the magic happens. There is something sexy, sweet, and super loving about being vulnerable with someone and having them be vulnerable with you at the same time. It shows that you’re a human too and you have feelings too, unlike these players out there who really don’t show vulnerability.
If someone was hurt and it’s taking time to build that trust back up again, the one who did the hurting should really try to show the vulnerability first to show their feelings and weakness first and foremost. This will allow the one who was hurt to see that the one who did the hurting can be hurt too – follow me?
2. Be Honest, All of the Time, at All Costs
You are not ever going to have trust without honesty, do you understand? If you lie to someone about anything, even something really small, they are going to find it very hard to trust you over the really big things too. And if you lie about something really big well that could be the end of your relationship then and there.
You need to be like Jim Carey from “Liar, Liar”, not able to tell a lie. Especially if something happened earlier on to break the trust, you’ll need to show him or her that you are able to be trusted again. You won’t be able to prove that while you’re lying all of the time, so learn to be honest. Even when the truth hurts.
It doesn’t only mean a lot to Arethra Franklin but it means a lot to your partner, and you too, if you want to have a good relationship. Hell, you’re even supposed to give strangers and people you don’t know or even like that much respect, so you better damn well give your lover some.
Respect is also much more than just treating them good, it’s about allowing them to make choices on their own without your judgment.
If something happened to break the trust, the one who broke it should show the utmost respect to the one who got hurt, in order for them to reciprocate those feelings. You should never expect the one who got hurt to try and mend things first. This only shows them that they are in it more than you are once again.
4. Give Forgiveness Where It Is Due, and Leave It There
Forgiveness is super important not for the other person, but for you. You can’t allow someone else who hurt you to win and succeed over your life by letting them take over your brain, body, and soul.
In fact, walking around with unforgiveness actually means they are winning because you are the one walking around with your head down about them while they waltz around with no care for what they did to you.
However, we hope that whoever broke your trust has given you every reason in the world to forgive them and is showing you everything they can to get you to trust them again. If you haven’t yet, forgive them. If not for them and your relationship, do it for you.
5. Show Them You Are Trying to Win Their Trust…It’s Sexy
When someone pursues you and tries to win you over, it’s super hot and sexy. Who doesn’t want someone fighting for their love? The mere act of fighting for someone’s love and affection alone can cause endorphins and serotonin to kick in and then you’ve got one hot heavy make-up session on the way.
Seriously though, show them you’re pursuing them and trying your damnedest to win their trust. They won’t be able to resist your advances and who knows, you might win their trust just by that alone?
6. Have Emotional Reactions to Real-life Scenes With Him/Her
Basically, don’t be a robot. Show them you have feelings and emotions and show them that a lot of your emotions are sparked from them. This is coupled with being vulnerable because you’re able to let that person in a special part of you that not many people will ever get to in your lifetime.
Let that sink in and then have an emotional heart to heart talk with them about your life together. Chances are your reactions and emotions will spark theirs too.
7. Make Sure It’s Equal in the “Give and Take” Department
As with any relationship, it must be equal when it comes to giving and receiving. Otherwise, the relationship becomes very unequal and it can cause the party doing all of the giving to become very angry and bitter about everything they are doing. Which then, of course, in the end will ruin the whole relationship.
On the flip side, the one who is receiving all of the time could start to feel one of two ways: conceited and expecting something from the other all of the time, or they could start to feel remorseful and start feeling like they are worthless, unable to give as much as they get.
This doesn’t mean that if one person is just super generous and doesn’t mind giving all of the time they should stop, it just means that both parties should watch their give and take and talk about it with each other to make sure you are on the same page.
8. Admit When You’re Wrong
No matter what anyone says, you are much more of a man or a woman if you can admit your faults and there is something really sexy about people admitting when they are wrong.
Not only is it sexy but it means that the other person has morals and remorse, which then means they don’t want to really hurt you but they are just human and make mistakes rather than a malicious person just ready and willing to hurt you however they see fit.
Even if you are the reason the relationship has broken trust now you still need to admit when you’re wrong in the past, future, present and so should your partner. Show them you can admit your faults and hopefully, they will follow your footsteps.
9. Sacrifice Others and Other Activities for Your Partner
One of the biggest ways to say “I love you and I don’t want to be with anyone else, ever” is to sacrifice things that you know and love, that they know you know and love and when you sacrifice those things, replace those things with that person instead? Oh, you’ll have yourself a lovely little love life, for the rest of your life.
People love knowing they are the apple of someone’s eye, the center of someone else’s world, and if you are trying to gain their trust this is going to be the way you do it.