Ideally, we should all want to be improving ourselves constantly, and we should always be evolving and growing within our personal goals and becoming better people as we do that.
Even if you think you are a great person, there is always something you could do to be a better version of yourself. Being conscious of the aspects you could be improving is a good way to start on your journey of self-improvement.
How to Be the Best Version of Yourself
If you can be the best version of yourself, you will not be the only one reaping the benefits of your decision to improve, the people around you will too. Keep the following tips in mind when aiming for self-improvement.
1. Analyze your actions.
Stop and think about what you are doing, who you are, and what aspects of that you might be unhappy with and want to change for the better or simply improve to continue striving for constant greatness. Throughout the day, try to analyze everything you do and say.
Ask yourself if you handle certain situations correctly or if there is room for improvement in your actions. Once you have taken a moment to reflect on your actions, write down your thoughts and the conclusion you have come upon. Write down all of the things you might catch yourself on that could be improved, for example:
- Not thinking before you speak. You should always think about what you are about to say and how it may affect the person you are saying it to before actually saying it.
- Don't respond without a clear answer. If you are unsure about something, don't respond just to give them an answer. Make sure what you are responding to is what you actually want to be responding to and not just something you're saying to please them.
- Learn how to say no. You don't have to say 'yes' to everything in life. You are allowed to disagree with things and to have a different opinion.
- Let the other person talk, don't interrupt. It's easy to get carried away and accidentally interrupt someone because you are excited to share your idea. However, it doesn't feel good for the speaking person, as they want to get their point across too. Try to be conscious of when you speak, and wait for it to be your turn to speak. If you interrupt them, apologize and let them finish before you share what you were so eager to say. Also, make sure you show them that you are really listening and care about what they have to say until they are finished talking, so they don't feel rushed.
- You don't treat people with kindness. Even if you have a bad day, you should always treat others with kindness. It is not their fault that you are in a bad mood or having a bad day, so why take it out on them? Take a moment to feel bad, but make sure you are on your best behavior when you are with other people.
- You don't follow through on things. Perhaps you tend to make plans, and you decide to cancel them at the last minute, or you simply don't show up. You tend to say you will do certain things, but you don't follow through. You probably have friends who do this to you, and you don't enjoy it. If you do this, you should try working on it and sticking to what you say you will do. Don't make promises you can't keep.
2. Work on one change at a time.
Once you have gathered a list of multiple things you can work on, try to put yourself in those situations so you can practice what you were planning to change. Avoid what you had been doing previously, and instead, act according to the improvements you decided you would make. Don't try to fix every little thing all at once.
Realistically that's not going to happen. It is important to put yourself in a scenario where you can work on one thing at a time so you can improve as much as possible and catch your mistakes until you are able to succeed.
3. Subconsciously behaving.
Now that you've worked on improving multiple behaviors, try to catch yourself subconsciously, without forcing yourself in those scenarios, and see if you really have improved your responses and behaviors. Hopefully, you notice a positive change, and if you don't, it's not a huge problem. Just continue practicing and analyzing the issue until you get it right.
4. Go through your list of improvements.
Six months is a good amount of time to have allowed yourself to make changes, so now it's time to check on how things are doing. Ask yourself if you still follow your newly adapted responses and behaviors. If that's not the case, repeat steps 1-3 and keep trying to improve.
Don't be discouraged. Not everyone can make improvements at the same speed as others. Some changes require more time than others, and that's okay. The important thing is that you are actively trying to be aware of what you need to do to improve and become a better version of who you are.
What Are the Benefits of Self-Improvement?
Once you improve yourself, you will quickly realize that other aspects of your life will improve. These are some of the aspects of your life that you may notice improving due to the positive changes.
1. Better with friendships.
Your friendships are likely better than ever. If you are happy being around yourself because you were able to improve things, your friends will be happy to be around you too. Perhaps they were never unhappy around you, but they will surely be able to feel the positive changes you have made.
2. Better with relationships.
If you weren't very successful with relationships, perhaps part of the reason was that you needed to make changes and improve different aspects of yourself. Maybe you weren't a good listener, or you weren't very reliable, but now that you have practiced the steps mentioned above, you could improve those aspects of yourself and now know how to be better in a relationship.
3. Better work opportunities.
If you have improved qualities about yourself, this will likely transfer to your work environment. This will not go unnoticed. Your co-workers and your boss will notice this and appreciate your presence more. If you are the boss, your employees will also find you more likable, and therefore they will be more likely to listen more and work harder.
4. Better at handling pressure and stressful situations.
If you are at peace with yourself and the person you are, and you have improved in the way you were determined to, for the time being, you will feel happier and less worried. This will allow you to handle pressure and stressful situations better than before. Remember to periodically check for more things that might require improvement.
How to Make It Easier to Accomplish Self Improvement
These are good tips to ease the process a little and make your goal of accomplishing self-improvement go smoothly.
- Work on your appearance. You must work on your self-confidence, and to accomplish that, it might be necessary to exercise or do activities that make you feel good about yourself, whatever that may be. If you feel good, you will feel motivated to achieve your goal of self-improvement, therefore achieving it faster.
- You have to want to change. If you don't have the motivation to make the changes you know you have to make, you will not be successful when you are attempting to do so. Don't do it for anyone but yourself. If you want to change, do it because it's something you want to achieve, because you really want to make these improvements for yourself, for your good. Nobody else can do it for you, and no one can decide to improve for you. You have to want it.
- Listen to constructive criticism. Don't let anyone tell you what to do or what changes you need to make, but let them share what their experience with you is. Perhaps they can provide insight that you cannot see yourself. Based on that, you may realize there are things you can improve that you couldn't see before.
- Learn to say sorry. Realize that we all make mistakes, and it's nothing to be ashamed of to say sorry or admit that the other person was right and you were wrong or mistaken. Being able to do this allows you to grow, but it allows you to free yourself from your bad actions. It allows you to be free of the guilt or shame that some of your mistakes may have caused you. Being able to admit you make a mistake and say you are sorry is crucial to improving your actions and the things you say.
In conclusion, making improvements within yourself will not necessarily be an easy process, and it will require you to reflect on yourself and the things you do.
You might face difficult truths in the process. Still, all of it will be well worth it in the end. The result of the work you put into improving yourself will be beneficial to you in many aspects of your life, ranging from friendships to different opportunities you may be presented with.
Needing to make improvements does not mean you are a terrible person. We all need to make improvements because we are all constantly evolving, and with constant evolution comes the need to improve new things.
Whether the improvements you need to make are big or small, do everything one step at a time, and be kind to yourself and others in the process.